CUT THE “SHOULD”
Friday, March 23, 2012 § Leave a comment
There are a bunch of questions that we get stuck with, because they don’t have an answer on any plane that is meaningful.
One group of such questions are “should” questions:
“Should I quit my job/take that job?”
“Should I marry/divorce my partner?”
“Should I move to another city?”
I can save you time: cut the “should.”
Ever so subtly, the “should” introduces the notion that there is some meaningful path preset for us and all we have to do is find it. There isn’t. It’s all up to you. That is liberating and burdensome at the same time.
The notion of “being authentic” is not at all the same idea as “being your true self.” If you are looking for your true self, you’ll find it’s like peeling an onion. You peel the layers away and there’s nothing at the center. “Authentic” comes from “author” – write your own life. It’s not written yet so there is no page on which to look up what is “supposed to happen next.”
Instead of the “should” questions, replace them with “want” questions.
Business Buddhism 